Dutch Dating

For centuries, whenever a date occurred, there were some very specific and accepted rules in place. The first one is that the guys always did the asking. Only a few times was it acceptable for girls to do the asking. These were events like Sadie Hawkins Day and simply social events that were set up by high schools, churches and various community organizations where the girls asked the guys they wanted to attend these events with them. The next rule is that the guys always paid for the date. Again, the only exception to this is when the girls were also the ones doing the asking. The guys provided the transportation and picked up the girls at their homes. Girls could do this when they were involved in one of those switching events. 

That may have made sense years ago when people had decent jobs, made adequate money at them, and the prices for entertainment wasn’t so high. These days, unless you happen to work as a doctor, lawyer, or CEO of a large company, you probably have to save up your money in order to afford asking a woman out on a date and paying for it. Due to the economy, it’s become the accepted practice of “Dutch Dating.” This means, basically, that when on an expensive date, the man pays for his half and the woman pays for hers. 

  
While this can get a bit sticky at times, there are actually new rules that govern Dutch Dating. When a couple is dating where each one makes pretty much the same amount of money, it’s acceptable for each partner to pay their own way. In this away, the couples get to do much more exciting things on dates than just having burgers at a fast food restaurant and watching a rented DVD at home. Now, there’s certainly nothing wrong with doing those things sometimes on dates, but who wants to do them all the time? 

If you want to do something special for someone that you’re dating, then you can save up some money for an event such as a birthday or anniversary. When you do the asking for something like this, you should expect to pay for all of it. This can be a nice thing to do for someone you care about. 

There’s also a rule about the person that makes the most money paying for the date, or at least paying for a larger portion of it. Again, this rule changes around depending on who did the asking and who planned the type of date it would be. There’s nothing wrong with women paying for the entire date sometimes, either. In fact, many couples switch back and forth as to who will foot the bill for dates. For instance, the guy pays for one and the woman pays for the next one and so on. This can work out pretty well. 
One rule that should always be in place is the first date rule. When a guy asks a woman out for the first time, he should be prepared to pay for the entire date. If the couple continues dating, they can make their own rules as they go along. 

Dealing With A Flirty Best Friend

Todays article Dealing With A Flirty Best Friend covers a sensitive subject. Your best friend are important to you and so are of course your girl or boyfriend to. Its important to see the difference between normal social behavior and flirting. Sometimes its easy to exageggerate if you have a tendence to be jealous, but if what you suspect its a repeated pattern you may look deeper into it. Read on and i wish you all a happy day!

Dick Scott

Best friends are some of the most wonderful things to have in the world. You share secrets, go places with them, and just enjoy spending time together. Yes, having a best friend can certainly make life grand! On the other hand, having a best friend that seems to feel that it’s ok to flirt with your boyfriend can be rather a pain in the ass. This is especially true when the best friend in question is pretty hot looking and doesn’t mind using her looks to gain the attention that should be yours. It’s a touchy situation, for sure.

Now, you can, of course, rectify the situation by simply dumping the best friend. That’s not out of the question because, honestly, if she’s flirting with your boyfriend, she’s kind of showing the disrespect she has for you. After all, she is treating something that’s supposed to belong to you as if he’s hers. However, if you’re sure that you want to continue this friendship, there are some other ways to handle it.

The first one is also the most direct one. Sit her down and tell her that you don’t appreciate her flirting with your boyfriend. Don’t beat around the bush, either. Tell her that you can see what she’s doing and that you consider it very disrespectful of her to do that to you. Ask her how she would feel if you were to start flirting shamelessly with her boyfriend. Be sure let her know how serious you are about her needing to stop.

Another way to get your point across is by mimicking her behavior. In short, you start flirting with her boyfriend. Show her what it feels like to have her boyfriend hit on right in front of her. She’ll more than likely not appreciate it at all and will approach you about it. That will give you the perfect opening you need to make her see how she’s making you feel.

Something else you can try is confronting her right in front of your boyfriend and anyone else that may be around. If she’s being blatant enough for you to notice the flirting, chances are good that others have noticed it as well. This behavior may have even caused others to be embarrassed about it. So they’ll totally understand why you’re calling her out on it in front of them.

None of these are totally foolproof but they’re better than doing nothing at all. More than likely, your feelings for her are going to erode after so many instances of her flirting with your boyfriend so it will be easier to cut her out of your life. Before you make that decision, though, take a close look at how your boyfriend is responding to her attention. If he’s encouraging it, then he needs to go right along with your about-to-be ex-best friend because he obviously doesn’t know how to act in a relationship any more than your friend does. Drop them both and don’t look back.

Dealing With A Flirty Best Friend

Todays article Dealing With A Flirty Best Friend covers a sensitive subject. Your best friend are important to you and so are of course your girl or boyfriend to. Its important to see the difference between normal social behavior and flirting. Sometimes its easy to exageggerate if you have a tendence to be jealous, but if what you suspect its a repeated pattern you may look deeper into it. Read on and i wish you all a happy day!

Dick Scott

Best friends are some of the most wonderful things to have in the world. You share secrets, go places with them, and just enjoy spending time together. Yes, having a best friend can certainly make life grand! On the other hand, having a best friend that seems to feel that it’s ok to flirt with your boyfriend can be rather a pain in the ass. This is especially true when the best friend in question is pretty hot looking and doesn’t mind using her looks to gain the attention that should be yours. It’s a touchy situation, for sure.

Now, you can, of course, rectify the situation by simply dumping the best friend. That’s not out of the question because, honestly, if she’s flirting with your boyfriend, she’s kind of showing the disrespect she has for you. After all, she is treating something that’s supposed to belong to you as if he’s hers. However, if you’re sure that you want to continue this friendship, there are some other ways to handle it.

The first one is also the most direct one. Sit her down and tell her that you don’t appreciate her flirting with your boyfriend. Don’t beat around the bush, either. Tell her that you can see what she’s doing and that you consider it very disrespectful of her to do that to you. Ask her how she would feel if you were to start flirting shamelessly with her boyfriend. Be sure let her know how serious you are about her needing to stop.

Another way to get your point across is by mimicking her behavior. In short, you start flirting with her boyfriend. Show her what it feels like to have her boyfriend hit on right in front of her. She’ll more than likely not appreciate it at all and will approach you about it. That will give you the perfect opening you need to make her see how she’s making you feel.

Something else you can try is confronting her right in front of your boyfriend and anyone else that may be around. If she’s being blatant enough for you to notice the flirting, chances are good that others have noticed it as well. This behavior may have even caused others to be embarrassed about it. So they’ll totally understand why you’re calling her out on it in front of them.

None of these are totally foolproof but they’re better than doing nothing at all. More than likely, your feelings for her are going to erode after so many instances of her flirting with your boyfriend so it will be easier to cut her out of your life. Before you make that decision, though, take a close look at how your boyfriend is responding to her attention. If he’s encouraging it, then he needs to go right along with your about-to-be ex-best friend because he obviously doesn’t know how to act in a relationship any more than your friend does. Drop them both and don’t look back.